Former Nun, Now Laywoman, Needs Dating Advice.?

Former nun, now laywoman, needs dating advice.?
To give a little background, I am a former nun, now laywoman, who has just started to date. My first date was very strange as he took me to McDonald's and a kid's movie. It was strange because he shook my hand. A lot of people thought I should try someone else, so I went ahead and had a few dates with other men. One, Frank, is someone I like very much. I told him about my spanking (I guess we can call it a fetish I have never tried), and he told me he loves to spank women and have them spank him. I want to keep my virginity until I get married, and Frank agrees 100% I should. He did say we should explore our mutual fetish without engaging in intercourse. Do people do this without having sex? If so, is it highly sexually arousing? My concern is I might lose control of myself sexually and end up a statistic. Thank you in advance for any input. Please only reply with kind answers. Jayne

You won't end up a 'statistic'.

What happens – will happen.
You would be surprised how many people realize they are sexually incompatible after they get married and without any previous sexual experience.
Do you know it's too late?

Everything has its pros and cons.