Ok heres some background info first.
He's friends with a friend, thats how we met. We first dated for 2 months about 5 years ago, went out to clubs and stuff, i slept with him and everything and I was hoping he would behave more like a boyfriend like wanting to go out during the day and stuff, not just clubs, but a few weeks later he went back to his ex. His ex was a posh rich girl who lived in a big house with a pool, very articulate, she was starting uni that year, while I'm just middle class with normal background, and he is somwhere halfway in between. He had told me a few times while we were dating that I should dress more sophisticated, he even called me an embarrasment, yes ok I'm quite outgoing and fun but that should be a positive not a negative!!, and he said I wasnt articulate enough cause i wasnt going to uni, he always said it in a jokey way but still hurt me, whatever.He even said to me that his ideal girl would be a rich posh french girl with class and manners, again said it in a jokey way, but it hurt SO BAD.
Months later him and his gfbroke up. At that time I had moved to Sweden on my own after I got an offer for a job in a trendy magazine which I had always wanted, and when I went back to the Uk on holiday every year and saw him in our group of friends he was friendly but still critizising my clothes, inmaturity etc.
3 years ago, while I was there on holiday, he "realized" he wanted me back, but I was going back to Sweden in a few weeks time, so we kinda got back together anyway and kept it like a long distance thing, but mutually decided to break it off a few months later. After that, I never heard from him again, never even met by chance when I went back to the uk on holiday twice.
Now, after 2 years of not hearing from him, he got in touch yesterday to say he loves me and he realized im the one for him. He said I could either go back to the UK or he would come to Sweden and live with me over here.
Now, here's the tricky bit. It's been established that hes a materialistic boy. My situation has changed so much since that day we met 5 years ago. I have an amazing lifestyle now, totally independent, lots of spare money for things, I have my own house here in Sweden, my own car, I get tons of designer clothes given to me for free thru the magazine, etc. And he's totally broke cause eventhough he finished Uni he hasnt been able to get a proper job yet.
Now he says he loves me but I can't forget the past, when I hadn't been successful he was never interested, and was always putting me down, he even said I wouldnt last a day in Sweden on my own. And now that Ive got a great life he comes crawling back. I dont know how to handle the situation, I dont wanna be a ****** and tell him "what comes around", or anything like that, but I dont love the guy, I used to, but he's hurt me so much that I dont have any love left, and I suspect he doesnt love me, he loves my life and maybe I'm a free pass into an easy life, I dont know…
Help please?? what do you guys think?
you should respectfully decline his offer
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