How Can Escape This Breakup/makeup Cycle with My Boyfriend

Human relationships are one of the most complicated functions of our body and the emotions that we experience, as human beings, still defy prediction or category. There are different levels, or even types, of love that we feel for each person in our lives. One thing that many people experience in their relationships with significant others is multiple breakups. We breakup with a person; but then keep going back to them repeatedly. If you are one of these people or know someone who is experiencing this, then you know how confusing it becomes over time. I hope that I can bring a smidgen of logic to this scenario with this article.

If you are someone who has been living in this breakup/makeup cycle, it may be time for you to sit down and examine why you keep returning for another dose. Is it because you are in truly in love with them or is there a comfort factor that is driving your emotions? Eventually, you are going to have to be honest with yourself and decide if you ever want this cycle of breaking up/making up to an end. If it is love that is driving your return, then you are going to want to work out whatever problem that causes the friction to facilitate these recurring breakups. Any healthy relationship requires some work but this one will certainly require an extra effort since you have broken up/made up multiple times. The other person may be as confused as you are about the whys and how’s of your mutual circumstances.

The only response is a forthright, truthful discussion when every issue is talked about openly, without the bias of past hurt emotions. If you love this person, you must sit down, consider the situation, and arrive at a rational plan of action to correct the troubles on each side. Unless there is some kind of factual issue such as drug dependence or incessant cheating most problems can be worked out or settled to each partner’s satisfaction. Both partners must be willing to work on the relationship if it is to triumph. Breaking up/making up numerous times will be bewildering to both parties in the relationship for many reasons. If you can find the root trouble in the relationship, you can fix it and continue with your relationship. If not, however, you may be fated to keep redoing the cycle until one of you says, “that’s enough”. If you love your partner, you must halt the breakups; otherwise, one or the other will finally give up.

The conduct of going back to a relationship because you feel secure must cease right away. It is naturally not right to give the other person this roller coaster of emotions; besides not being healthy to your own emotional well-being. Both people stay confused, and emotional wounds may last for many years if you do not deal with the situation honorably, and with tactfulness.

We all have a responsibility each individual in our relationships to be at at the minimum truthful, and frank; not using our emotional hold on someone to further our own self-centered agenda.

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