I always get frustrated and angry with my girlfriend when I argue and end up saying I want a breakup. She came to the conclusion that I'm emotionally abusing her. I love her a lot and wouldn't forgive myself for hurting her in any way. What can I do?
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Well you have to start out calm, when im arguing i find i can calm down a bit by thinking of the words as just noise. Hopefully you have listened to enough of what she has to say to get what she is on about. Think about it, it is some little thing that she has just exploded over? If so then she is probably stressed and it isn't your fault, not much you can do but apologyse anyway and sympathies with her just to calm her down, you could talk it over later when she is calm but i dont know that that gets you anywhere, we all have bad days.
However if it is something serious then your Response must depend on what the problem is, but in General try to look at things from her side and understand what she wants. Then compromise is the best thing to do however sometimes this is impossible. Good luck i hope you can get you relationship back.
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Pls Go and get an appointment with a psychiatrist and get his advice of your problems. Better you can go for a counseling. Why I suggest this means, It may affect your career in the future. Pls take care of it.
So don't develop your temper day by day. It will ruin your beautiful life. So better take care now itself.
A small advice to your GF.
If she is really interested on you, She is the one listen your problems and convince you and encourage you and support you without ego.
Most of the couples have the problem of Ego. This problem break a lots of couples. So pls don't give room for ego.
A friend
I think the best thing to do is not argue at all. Sound impossible? It's not! You can either wait til both of you are calm (might even take 24 hrs) or just agree to disagree. Most of the time when you are in a relationship arguing can really make the relationship sour. It's best to get your points across when you are calm. Just stop and listen to each other instead of trying to force your opinion on the other.
Well, I think the only thing you can do is get control of yourself. The best thing to do is when you feel like exploding at her, instead, try telling her you need a couple minutes then go for a walk or something. But put a time limit on your "walks" so she knows when to expect you back. Otherwise she may feel like you've just left her. When you get back be prepared to listen and understand. That doesn't mean let her take control and walk all over you either. Just make sure that you are "communicating" and not just talking at each other. Good luck:)
i know how you feel, i do the same thing sometimes. my anger gets the best of me alot. just take a few deep breaths, tell her that fighting is stupid and you wont do it. commit to not fighting even when they try to push your buttons. i normally say that im tired of fighting and it takes to much effort, tell her i love her, and im done with it.. ill go outside and smoke a cigarette or do something else to calm down…
I am going through the same thing, but towards my now ex boyfriend. I have started to seek therapy – early days, but I had a very angry abusive childhood which is probably why I act this way. So hard to control isn't it? Seek some help.
if you really love her, thenn show her that. and apoligize when "hurting" her. and if you get angry, try walking away, and text her or call her right away. or maybe its just not ment to be, hope i helped.
First, work on your spelling, grammar and sentence structure.
"One ship sails east and another sails west,
By the self-same winds that blow.
It's the set of the sails and not the gale,
That determines which way we go."
-Ella Wheeler Cox.
Don't tell her you're going to break up, unless you're actually willing to do that. If she constantly pisses you off then just dump her. Otherwise suck it up and be a man.
dont let thi ngs bother you the way they do tell her you dont want to alk about it at the moment and that you will discuss the matter when you are calmed down….
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