Im a 22 bi-curious girl and I've had an experience with a friend from high school years ago..and think about it a lot..even though Im attracted to guys, I am definitely interested in meeting another girl who is similar – maybe bi or bi-curious.
But..It's so difficult because I dont know anyone I could talk to openly about this and most friends of mine are in relationships or engaged etc. I now live in the city so have had to make new friends and dont have any close friends here, so it's incredibly hard to even think about talking to them about it especially as I am just curious at the moment. At least if I met someone who was curious too there would be more of an understanding.
I joined a forum where people talk about their curious fantasies etc. but Im finding that they are experiencing the same frustration if they are curious but are married to a guy or they go to lesbian clubs etc. and are quite open about it, they seem to know exactly what to do.
Dating websites..I find are very seedy and it seems to be women wanting to find another girl so their guy can watch..which to me is just too creepy and especially if Im shy about this..it's even scarier and not what Im looking for at all.
Any tips? I've tried ignoring these feelings but they keep coming back. Im interested in exploring this further but really dont know how to..Any bi/bi-curious people out there who could offer advice?
You need to find a good guy as your wing man…lol. When you find a girl that's checking you out at the bar, have him go over and start chatting with her to see if she's interested. That way you can save some embarrassment and get an honest answer. You could also start hanging out in some coffee shops or bookstores and check out some girls from there. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I'm in a similar position (except I'm married) so I can't say much. What I can tell you is that there are a lot of women in your same position. Go to those lesbian clubs and talk to women even if you don't know they're in your same position. There will most likely be an understanding regardless of their current status because they were most likely in your position before. You can also see how open minded your friends are with general questions about things like their opinion on gay marriage or some other topic in the news currently (or that you "just found." Savage Love is a column you might want to google and say you heard about it through the controversy over Rick Santorum's name) without giving anything away. You're in a city so you should be able to find some open minded people unless you're spending all your time between work and a homophobic church.
twitter! lots of girls in same position. check ot out
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