What Age Gap is Acceptable Between and Older Man and Younger Woman?

I am a 46 year old man and want to date a woman younger than me (not just any woman, but one in particular). What age gap would be acceptable to you think between a man my age and a younger woman?

Answer:

There is more than just the age gap to consider.My guess is that you have already been married and possibly have a family. I would also expect the lady that you wish to date has also been previously married with children.So there is no real reason for you to have anymore children because you will both have proved that children are not the cement that binds you together as a family.My theory is this, you can date a lady that is perhaps 10 or so years younger than you and if it blossoms into a affair that leads to marriage, you can both be joined and not have the worry of children cluttering up your life. Both of you can devote the rest of your life to seeing to the needs of any children that you both may have and not complicate things financially and emotionally by have to provide for a third family at the expense of your first family. Think about this too, if you marry a woman that is say 15 years younger than you, in another 15 years you will be thinking about retirement but she will still be the age you are now, I can tell you from experience will not have the same drives that you have now, but she will. There is a lot to think about and ego and macho is not going to do it in this case, just be sensible. Keep your brain above your shoulders and not below. It can work so best of luck.

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I am in the opposite position to you!! I am a female in my mid 20s and have fallen for a guy in his mid 40s. Normally I've always been atracted to guys between 18-30 but with this man as soon as I saw him I felt a stong connection and we do get on. I am unsure how he feels about me though we have been out a few times as friends (just the two of us) but I think he is too scared to make a move as he doesn't want to seem a dirty old man, and I'm too scared as don't want to seem a dumb young dreamer. I don't know how he feels about me and not knowing is driving me crazy (and to make things worse we both moved away from the place we met several miles north and south and now only have brieft phone contact). But I think it is worth noting that as much as people would think the older guy might worry that a younger lady would never be interested, a younger lady can also worry the older guy might not take her seriouly.

PS Thought I might add here, that a lot of guys will say to me 'hell yeah a older man would go out with you he'd be a fool not to!!' but I don't want to be a trophy girlfriend, I care about this man deeply and feel akind to him and don't want to be messed about. This is the closest to love I have ever felt and I have had a long term relationship before plus other boyfriends and never have I been blow away by someone as with this guy.

PPS I am over 25 too so I'm not a child anymore… I do know life!! But I still feel less mature than this very wise deep thinking older man. I don't want him to think me a fool.

My mum and dad are 8 years apart, so when Dad was your age my mum was 38. My sister and her partner are the same, she's 28 and he's 36, i think thats an ok age gap. But ive also got an Auntie of 60 now who was married to my now late uncle who was 25 years older

Love is love, age is just a number, so long as theyre old enough to be sure and know what they want, mature and responsible andlegal then i dont think age should ebcome an issue

if u're 46.. i would say that an acceptable age (to the public) would be in the 30's….
but love really doesnt have an age barrier, and to me i would have to say that the woman would have to be at a mature age.. prob 25 or so, and it also depends on if u have any children, cause if u do u dont want to be with anyone who is under 10 years older than ur child… it just isnt fair to them

hope to have helped, and good luck

Probably a woman 35 and older. I am in my 20's and I could never imagine dating someone in their 30's or 40's, so that is what my answer is based on. There is too much of a generational gap for someone over ten years younger than you, in my opinion. GOOD LUCK!

It doesn't matter! If two people love each other and get on well who cares? Age, race or whatever should never come into it. If you are both happy then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If you are lucky enough to have found someone you love and who loves you then go for it!

Men your age tend to go for women in their early 30's. Women in their early 30's tend to go for a succession of men around your age.

It depends entirely on the individuals involved and isn't written in stone EXCEPT she would need to be of legal age and, for your sake, a mature adult.

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