.."i don't need men", women, i.e. feminist, did romance just vanished from your life?
More rules of how to behave, did it ruin surprises, attention and other sappy stuff?
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I would like to know where some of you guys get the idea that being strong and independent means that a woman no longer enjoys the 'sappy stuff'? Being able to fin for myself, or independent of support from any one doesn't mean that my likes or dislikes somehow disappear. When you left home from your parent’s home, you became independent. It didn't change who you where as an individual, it just meant that your financial or emotional support from your parents was now being compensated for the new found Independence you have for yourself.
Did your 'rules' on how to behave change you?
Did it ruin any of your surprises?
Why is it Ok for you to become independent and 'strong' but not for me?
And where does it say that a woman has been dependent upon anyone for anything? Where does it state that being 'strong' (mentally, physically or emotionally) is only limited to men?
Being able to handle certain situations and circumstances doesn't mean that we as women dismiss the physical, emotional, psychological or sexual needs/desires for a man. It just means that we're no longer dependent upon a man (in marriage) to have our basic needs met, or financial support.
Now, some of you guys come here and complain about women who only date/marry men for money (which equals support), yet you down talk women who're independent and support themselves 0_o? Taking it as she's demonstrating a 'I don't need a man" attitude?
Some of you say that in order for a woman to prove that she's 'equal' to a man is if she gets a job and works hard like a man does; but when you find a woman who does these things, she's trying to 'be a man' or take on a 'man's role'?
What should we do? If we're stay at home mothers who marry a man who can support of financially, then we're 'gold digging leeches'. But if we work hard, become educated and take care of ourselves, we're wrong for being seen as independent women who 'don't need a man'. No one needs anyone to be honest for survival, we can all provide our own basic needs, wants and desires; but when did it become a bad thing for a woman to be seen as independent? I thought you guys wanted women who're emotionally strong (i.e. thinking like a man) so that we don't allow our emotions over ruled by our 'sappiness'?
Edit: Again, men like Rickey are making bad choices in women; and then blaming all of us for the actions of 'her'. If you find a woman that only thinks about herself, her needs, wants or desires then you don’t need her. If you find a woman who’s not in tune with what makes you (as her man) happy, or what it is you want from her in a relationship; then again, you don’t need her.
You can’t be in a relationship by yourself. There must be an equal give and take; and you get out of a relationship what you as an individual put into it.
Oprah has nothing to do with how individuals chose to live their lives or conduct themselves in a relationship/marriage; that all falls on how the individual man or woman feels about his/herself and how they feel they should be treated in a union. And when you find someone who’s needs, wants and desires are the same as yourself, you don’t have to worry about being with a woman that suffers from the ‘me’ complex.
Some of you men (Rickey) need to stop choosing the beauty queens (i.e. drama queens) that are used to having men wait on them hand and foot based on how they look. These women only understand ‘me’ and have no idea of the definition of ‘we’.
Sometimes it’s not the women/men who have the problem, because we can always point the finger and find fault in what every one else is doing (leaving what we do wrong out of the over all picture) The 'problem' can lie within the reflection staring back at you in the mirror. Make sure that you don’t have a ‘me’ complex as well. When you point the finger, there’s always three more pointing back at you.
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Can only co dependent women experience love and romance? Feminists are more capable of being in a lasting relationship with a partner of their choice, because they are strong and independent, and don't rely on male approval to get by. They can accomplish things on their own without needing to get married as a method of being saved. That said, I NEED my husband. Not only do I need him for the daily support and encouragement he gives me, but also because having him makes my life better, easier, and more fulfilling. I would still be able to support myself and handle my life and have a sense of self worth had he never entered the picture. My husband is stronger than men who hate women and oppose feminism, because he can talk to me like an equal and values my opinion, I don't need to be weak to make him feel strong. Romance and love based on mutual respect is so rewarding. Each party strives to make the other happy, and as a result, both parties are always happy.
Kooky stereotyping.
Feminists find life ever so much more fulfilling for being an equal partner. And though I can only speak for one relationship of 30+years, I've shared greater intimacies for being open and honest rather than passive and vapid.
Help me with this stereotype- men who think feminists are "I don't need men" types…. are you rich in your relationship or do you have the idea that you don't understand women? I think those "rules of how to behave" are much more stringent. Men go around wondering "what the hell is going on with her". And women turn on/off the intimacy for the kind of control men call p****whipping. A feminist wouldn't stand for it.
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