So, you’re wondering how to approach women now are you?
To approach women properly, you need to beat approach anxiety. So how do you do that? You need to just take your mind off the result of the interaction and be happy you actually completed the process of approaching.
I know this sounds silly and does nothing for productivity, but that’s because us guys use our left sided logic too much. If you look at why men are afraid of approaching women, you’ll notice that most of them are afraid because they are too worried about the outcome. We as guys simply care too much about the outcome we don’t want such as being rejected.
Just adjust the way that you think for a moment, and tell yourself so long as you complete the approach and you’re a success, you make things a lot easier for yourself and removes heaps of unwated pressure. This removes the outcome based approach and you will no longer be afraid of rejection, because well, the very act of you approaching is a success to you! If she gives you her details, then that’s a great bonus!
If you just focus on the process, you will remove a lot of self limiting beliefs imposed by yourself due to your goal orientated nature, then you’ll start getting a lot more success. Once you change the focus to the process and not the outcome, you’ll succeed a lot more because you have no pressure.
Just make sure that you do not care about the OUTCOME as much as the process!
There is no need to put additional pressure on yourself when there really is no need.
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