So you have bene dumped. Chances are you deserved it or may be you did something regrettable. Chances are your ex boyfriend suddenly had the feeling that you wanted to date other girls. Or may be it was, because you did not invest enough into the relationship. It does not really matter what the reasons were, fact is, you have merged from your initial shock or denial and now you have realized that you want to have your ex back. You realized that despite of leaving his clothes on the floor, and despite of leaving the toothpaste tube open, he his absolutely adorable.
Dry your tears. Its time to get busy and get that man back. Follow these steps straight back to Datesville and happy times snuggling on the couch together.
1. Look the part. Remember when you first met? Or your first date? It probably didnt involve sweatpants and yesterdays makeup. Indulge in some self improvement. Confidence is super sexy. No self respecting man will find you desirable if he catches you with tissues stuck up your nose. Hit the salon, the spa or the gym. Get an updated look and give your ex a reason to take a second look.
2. Get your sales pitch together. Write your own profile as if you were going to post it online for a dating site. Much like a job interview, you will need to sell yourself. By taking inventory and listing your attributes, youll be able to make your pitch to your ex-boyfriend on what a great catch you are and why you should be together. You wont need to recite it later but it will give you the confidence (again, super sexy) as well as some talking points that you can use.
3. Now it is time to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself, why you are not together right now. Were you a nag? Did he cheat? Did you stray? Did you let yourself get too complacent? It is important that you understand why you are no longer together. Without this knowledge you won’t be able to get back together again. By reflecting on what went wrong you can establish new ground rules and agree to handle things differently.
4. If this man deserves a second chance, do not try any gimmicks. This guy deserve better than a lame attempt to fool him in to seeing you again. Arranging chance encounters is a no go. And stalking him is another very bad idea. Instead give him a phone call and let him know that you spend a lot of time thinking about your relationship and you have to tell him things that have values for both of you.
5. Find the right words, this is important. Expect Success. Realize that compromise is mandatory. Acknowledge shared responsibility. Make a plan to reconcile.
Yes, it will require some work on your part and may be even some self improvement, but it is definitely possible to get your ex boyfriend back. Now put away your tissues and start to act
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