I have been with my husband for 18 years, married 15 years. As we all know that when we first meet someone we are all over them. Throughout our relationship we have had problems. There was abuse in the past, but honestly that has stopped. Right now, we have sex about 3-4 times a week. Then again, it depends. But mainly, it is from 2-4 times a week. Even when Im on my period, I please him to not neglect his needs. None the less, it seems that he is just not satisfied. I give him sex the way he likes it, do what he pleases in that area..and it is still NOT ENUFF! I am at my witts end. We do have 4 kids but they live w/ relatives due to school issues. He tells me he doesnt wanna treat me like a slut, but thats what he wants. I aint no prude, ok. I do enjoy great sex. Yet I also feel that it should be spontanious as well. I feel like, I cant go to bed w/o him wanting it..I cant get UP outta bed w/o him wanting it. Truth be told both people aint gonna be in the mood at the same time all the time. And yea, sometimes its still hard for me to get over what has happened in the past. I am a good woman, I take damn good care of him in other areas. He wants me to pls him in an area that to me, just isnt what I feel men should have pleased. Maybe its me. I am wrong? I dont want any smart answers, please! I am lookn for serious advice. I feel that I am not enuff for him in this area. An old friend told me once that it doesnt matter how much I do for him..he will never be satisfied. We are both in our early 40's. I wanna cry b/c I dont know what else to do. When we do have sex, its good. Tho, when the next day comes..its like he forgot all about it and starts to complain about how he wishes I pleased him in more ways. I do draw the line when it comes to a couple things. I truly feel that a man is to romance a woman from the time they wake up til the time they go to bed. B/c how you treat a woman determines whether or not she will turn to you. Does he romance me? No. I feel like he wants a 24/7 whore/blow up doll. If anyone can offer good, decent advice I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you in advance.
I am a male over 60 and if I could get it I would probably have sex every second day. However, all our life my wife has drawn her boundaries as to when and what to do. I may not like it but I respect her for it. Sometimes I get the feeling that we males would not stop our demands until we turned our wives into complete whores and then some. You need to draw your lines and he must learn to respect your boundaries and the simple fact that women are not as horny as men and that sex for women is an act of love with meaning whereas with men it is just sex.
once you make your decisions you will have to live with the consequences – whatever they may be if any. Hopefully they will be good.
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If you two can't talk out your issues, then enlist the aid of a couples counselor…you both need help seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and help in determining if either person has unreasonable expectations…
There should be room for compromise…neither of you should feel neglected or put-upon to keep your sex life healthy…
when I'm stressed out we go without sex for weeks at times. But on average I would say 4-5 times a week at least. And at times we just go at it way too much lol, though those times are rare due to the children
We are in our late 20s
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