It is easy to tell in a real life how good (or bad) is this man for you. In the virtual world of online dating it can be much harder. Unfortunately, there are enough black sheep on the web, who can nicely present themselves online, hiding their actual face. A few tips below will help you to make a right choice.
1. Take a look at his picture. If his photo is small and out-of-focus, and it is hard to tell his face, because he wears sunglasses, or it is shown at a bad angle, or the image is of full a figure ” it is almost certain that he is trying to conceal his identity. Why he may be doing that? Most likely because he is married.
Another characteristic feature is a certain type of lines in a personal profile, revealing the intentions which can be summarized under the same meaning: “looking for a partner for a sexual relationship”. Today many men are not trying to hide their married status, they just not mention it. You can ask them in a slightly hidden form: “you are talking like a married man”.
2. Be alarmed if the description of his “perfect match” is centered on how she looks, rather than on what is her character, manners or interests. Sure, who would be concerned about her interests if she looks just like Kate Moss or Jessica Simpson? Unfortunately, here is a big concern, especially if you will pass the selection test. The concern is: what you will be doing together? Going to cinema or museums, riding bikes, rock climbing? Nope: the author of this profile is looking for only one thing from you: sex.
3. Be skeptical when you see romantic or touchy photos, like man with a dog, or a kid, or by himself in tuxedo or in a limo. Reality may not stretch beyond a catchy picture, and there are no dogs or kids, while the pics with tux and limousine were clipped from wedding picture package. Bottom line ” do not take a picture as granted. Ask a question about it now, so you will not regret it later.
4. If he tells you “let’s talk about it later” and or if his profile is somewhat incomplete, the best you can do is just drop this candidate for online dating from your list. This man is either lazy, or has full life, or both, and in any case, you should not waste your time on him.
5. It is a good question to ask (unless it is a standard one in profile format) ” what was a reason of break up in your past relationships. If he blames her or them, then just forget him. In majority of cases both sides are responsible for split ups and you definitely don’t want to be the next one to be blamed.
Here are some other signs which you can find in mens profile revealing that its author is online Lothario.
- Multiple postings of the same individual on one site.
- The protagonist shows on his profile photo with a lady (perhaps only hugging arms can be seen).
- He lists his over 80 k$ income figure without any further details (like, say, education or his profession) which would back the numbers.
- He leaves his number with some limited hours when you can call him. Many authors of such profiles are already married.
Final note: don’t let yourself being deceived by catchy photos and brilliant profiles: explore and analyze, ask questions and search more, and you will find him.
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