There is a saying that states: “you can not miss something that you never had”. This must be the reason why it is not uncommon for most people to have an obsession with their ex’s. Most of us have difficulty to let go of the relationship, the person and the past.
Previous relationships and past girlfriends or boyfriends can be very depressing and sad. There is a lot of mental tension and turmoil that goes on. But how you take the whole subject depends completely on you. If it is combined with embarrassment, it only becomes worse.
People who have not been through break ups do not know how to behave or talk to people going through the bad time. There are things you can do to fight this battle.
Cry all you need to cry. Tears cause a chemical process that allows us to heal our hearts faster. Do not suppress your sorrow and depressed feelings or emotions.
Hold on to your religious believes. Knowing that there is Something greater and more significant than your pain and suffering. There is something charismatic in this. For every time you place your grieve in the Healer’s Hands, some unexplained good come across your way. Be on the look out for the good and positive things that comes your way in the form of support and love.
Focus on yourself and not the other person. Pity yourself and find happiness within you. Fill up your loneliness with your activities and work. You have it in you and can make it happen.
When pain come back and knock on your door after a while again, accept and acknowledge it but do not foster it. Become consciously aware of the existing moment. Notice positive things around you. The more you do this, the more will you start to keep the past a distant memory.
Its godly to forgive and its best to forgive the other person. Forgiveness and being generous in your dealings is the best way to get out of your pain.
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