People tend to think that a first date is simply a casual meeting between two potentially interested singles. Being a 25 year old young man, who dedicated his high school years maintaining a high G.P.A. and my college years studying for exams – I wasn’t what most people would consider a popular student. Though I kept myself occupied and excelled academically, I felt that my personal life was on life support.
In an attempt to boost my interpersonal skills, I made it a goal to land my first date. In theory, this all sounds fun and easy. In reality, It taught me a life lesson that wasnt taught at school -it’s tough out there! I used to sit down and watch the way guys approached girls with ease – they seemed to get chuckles out of girls, they complimented them and many times, after just a few minutes of talking, they would get a phone number. Well, I wont sell myself short here, but let me just start off by saying that I A) I’m not too charming B) My sense of humor is best suited for classrooms C) The thought of approaching a girl makes me nervous.
I did some research for %LINK% and found companies like Match offering free services. As i’m sure most of you know, it turned out to be a total spin on words. It was free to sign up, but you have to pay to use the service. Anyways, I was determined to find a online dating site, because in this day in age, I figured that there must be some out there. I found a few companies like Plentyoffish, OKCupid and Hintcafe.com. I decided to select Hintcafe because it seemed easier to use and it had a nice homepage, lol. I created my profile, uploaded a few pictures and I was up and running. I found a handful of girls that were very good looking and seemed interesting. I sent out fifteen messages, then I watched a movieand called it a night.
The next day, after I got back from work, went to check my account to see if I got responses. To my surprise, 8 girls responded to me. I exchanged emails back and for with the girls and within a short period of time, to my dismay, I was getting messages back from girls telling me that I wasn’t their type or after a few exchanges, I wouldnt hear back from them at all. I continued to send messages to girls, but found the percentage of girls responding to me had dropped off or ended the same way as the previous messages had ended. Feeling defeated, I decided to log out of my account and I decided that online dating wasn’t for me. I figured that I’d meet someone special and I shouldnt rush it. I went back to my daily routine of work, dinner, watching movies, and catching the occasional Clippers game.
It was a Saturday morning, when my sidekick started chirping – I had a message. I opened my new twice. Alicia was on HintCafe as well and she had sent me a message! Her message read: “Hey there Michael. I havent seen you at the library for a while. I hope everything is ok. I guess if you spend too much time at the library you end up looking for people online, hehe. Anyways, I’m heading to the Starbucks next to the library, if you’re around, we should meet up 
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I must’ve read the message 5 times before I responded to her. I was happy, hopeful and determined to try this out. I responded by telling her that I was headed to the library and would love to meet up with her.
I took a shower, sprayed on my new Axe body spray (any help will do) and got ready. By the time I got back to my laptop she had responded back to me to let me know that she would be at the starbucks in 30 minutes – PERFECT!
On my way to the coffee shop, I have to admit that I was nervous. Two blocks away from the starbucks and I was sweating. I turned on the AC full blast and made a few circles around the area to cool down a bit. I parked my car and there she was. Sitting on the outside patio of the starbucks, Alicia had two frappaccinos on the table. The conversation started a bit awkward, and there was an awkward hug where I wasnt sure if I should hug her or shake her hand but surprisingly, the conversation quickly turned around. The two of us had a lot in common and we laughed about the same things. We even high fived each other when we agreed that The Mask had to be at the top of the list for the funniest movie of all times.
Well, we never did make it to the library. We ended up leaving starbucks and went to grab some thai. We walked around a park and talked about things like favorite school subjects, fondest memory, most embarrassing moments, dreams, favorite ice cream flavors…you name it.
Needless to say, the date was one of the best days of my life. It’s been two and a half months since we met at Starbucks and my quest for a first date turned into a relationship that has put a new kind of happiness in my life. My first day wasnt extravagent. We met at a coffee shop and she even paid for my drink. What made the day special was the conversation. I think we both felt comfortable enough to talk about life and conversations that mattered – we were simply being ourselves. Now, I dont think I would’ve ever had the courage to approach her, so for that, thank you Hintcafe and thank you library!
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