Dear Sir Matchalot,
After almost 20 years on the dating scene, I have suddenly come to realize that most of the girls I’ve dated aren’t for me. I do not think I am difficult to please, it’s just that with so much divorce in the world, I want to make sure I find my perfect match before committing to something longer-lasting.
I go through one or two year periods where I have lots of girls wanting to meet me, then I go for a long period where everything seems to dry up and nobody wants to talk to me. It makes me wonder why it is always feast or famine when it comes to meeting women. I don’t really like this style of dating.
I have awesome friends and a great job, and I truly am interested in meeting a special girl who can be the special one for me. Any ideas or suggestions you can provide will be greatly appreciated!
Signed – trouble finding the right one.
Dear Trouble,
Your problem is a common one, and is also an easy one to solve. Women can smell success or failure from a million miles away. When you are on a roll and seeing several girlfriends at the same time, other women pick up on that vibe and feed off it. Likewise, once you hit a dry patch, you confidence drops and your appeal to the opposite sex also goes south once they sense that you might be getting a little desperate. Some experts even think that this effect may have a chemical basis, as women can tell from the “smell” you are giving out how successful you might be when it comes to relationships with the fairer sex.
The key to this situation is to always act like you are on top of your game, and to always have a few relationships in your back pocket for cases when things get a little dry. This doesn’t mean you have to always forge a deep relationship with every girl you meet, but make use of online dating sites to hook up now and then with new friends. Just the fact that you have a few girls on your list who you are chatting to can give you the hormone and confidence boost you need when you do end up stumbling across Ms. Right. At the same time, you are bound to find a few keepers based on the sheer numbers of people you can meet online, so it is best to always keep yourself in the game.
Sir Matchalot is a dating and relationship expert who also happens to work with the world’s fastest, easiest and most fun online dating site at http://www.matchalot.com. Email your relationship questions to info@matchalot.com.
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