I've never done this before, asking a personal question such as this one over the internet. But I didn't want to get my friends or family involved they will just judge me and the situation. I met my boyfriend of a year and one-half in September of 2010, My boyfriend moved in with me two months after we met because of his family disputes. I took him into my home knowing he was jobless and had been for 18-months prior to his move in. My mother and I did everything we could do to guide him into finding a job, but he would just slip out of the situation and make excuses. Because of issues between my mother and I we moved to my dad's house in Dec of 2010 we lasted at my dad's for three months, my boyfriend spent his time at my dad's looking at dating sites and talking to other girls. He wasn't really putting a whole lot of effort into finding a stable job. In march of 2011 we then moved to my friends house, I gave him one last chance to get a job. In April 2011 he finally got a job. We then moved once again back to my mothers in May of 2011. My boyfriend then lost his stable job because he quit in August of 2011. My mother kicked us out in Sept 2011. I have now been moving with my boyfriend to random rooms for rent within the area close to my job. My boyfriend did find work at a movie theater but he only gets 8-16 hours per week. Nothing promising. Lets reverse for a second, back in May I found out my boyfriend was posting sex AD's on craigslist and almost dumped him, I held on because of his promises and because at that time I didn't want to loose him. Now that its Dec of 2011 I really do not know what to do anymore and how I can continue this life style with my boyfriend. I've told him countless times how he can help less my burdens he's placing on me. But nothing sinks in, I want stability and assistance in making income. I want to build a future and have a family. I do not see any of my plans coming true with my current boyfriend, he is so lazy. I do not trust him either. I do want to express that I love him very much and we do get along very well. But he doesn't seem like he is willing to help me out in our relationship. I want a man not a boy. He is 24 and I am 26 years old. My boyfriend says hes never cheated just communicated with woman over the web. I do not buy that. I am unhappy and lonely. And he is selfish when it come to the bedroom. I do everything for my boyfriend, I pay for everything, cook, clean, wash his laundry. I even do what he wants in the bedroom. But he doesn't do anything for me. What can I do here???
It really sounds like you know what you need to do. Get rid of the dead weight. It may take some getting used to, but its worth your happiness and success in the long run.
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I was with a guy like that, i didn't trust him, he lived off me etc… One day I said it was over, he left! The first few months were horrendous, I nearly asked him
To come back to me quite a few times, but I stayed strong and kept thinking how unhappy I was in the relationship !! Now 7 months have passed and I am seeing clearly, I am seeing the relationship for what it was now, unhealthy and I really feel happy. I am enjoying being single and I feel well rid of the looser I was with!! So hunny… U will never be happy untill u move on from him.. Hope this helped
I think it`s time to move on. You gave this man multiple chances to stear HIS life in the right direction, yet he it doesn`t seem like he wants that for himself. You`re own mother tried too.Think of the future. What`s going to happen when you are 50 years old and are moving from room to room just to survive? What about your future with a possible family? With this man you will not be able to support one, therefore a family is out of the picture. You said that he is "selfish" and is causing you to be "unhappy and lonely"… if you`re feeling this only after a year and a half… what will you feel in 3 years?
Good Luck!
"I want a man not a boy." Then by all means go get one.
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