Have you ever though that you could improve your marriage if you could just learn to bite your tongue at times? I’m sure if you have been married longer than a few months you probably have had a slip up and said something that you wish you could take back but once you said it the damage was done.
Words are so powerful they have the potential to build a relationship up or tear it down. How many people have died because of a few words said to the wrong person at the wrong time?
Well, if you are looking for ways to help use words to build your relationship instead of tearing it apart here are the 21 most important words you can use to improve your marriage.
Ours (1)
Once you got married what was his and hers became ours. If your marriage is truly a partnership i.e., two becoming as one then everything you have should be referred to as ours. It’s not an attempt to strip you of your individualism but if you aren’t identifying as one then you haven’t quite fulfilled your marital union (in my humble opinion).
Thank You (2)
These 2 simple words are often assumed and forgotten. Often times because we become so accustomed to our spouse doing things for us we neglect to say thank you. It’s nice to be appreciated and when a spouse hears “Thank You” it’s like hearing “You mean a lot to me and I appreciate you very much”. It’s at least what I hear.
Practice saying “thank you” and your spouse will appreciate it.
I Love You (3)
These three words have stood the test of time and are still able to penetrate the heart and turn anger to joy, sadness to happiness and bring a sense of security. The best thing about these three words is that they can be spoken but are more powerful when displayed. When you do stuff for your spouse that shows how much you love him or her it makes it even more appreciated.
I Do Forgive You (4)
Unfortunately, no person is perfect so from time to time a spouse screws up and needs to here the words “I do forgive you”. These words if spoken from the heart can result in a healing or growth in a marriage. If true forgiveness isn’t offered and received then a marriage will have trouble dealing effectively with marriage problems along the way.
We Can Work This Out (5)
Again, if you really want to improve your marriage you need to be willing to work things out. It’s very easy to want to take a stand and don’t back down because of your pride or perhaps you have been hurt.
I am Sorry, Please Forgive Me (6)
Need I say more? Understanding when you are wrong and being mature enough to admit it and seek forgiveness from your spouse will go a long way in helping you improve your marriage. The key to being forgiven is to do your best to make sure you don’t need to be forgiven over and over again. If you are truly sorry, then you probably shouldn’t be making the same mistakes.
Practice using these 21 simple words to help you build a strong and healthy marriage and if followed consistently should improve your marriage.
You can easily build the kind of marriage that is fun, exciting and romantic and lasts until death do you part. You can unleash the full potential of your marriage and learn different ways to appreciate communicate and meet the needs of your spouse. See here: Improve Your Marriage
D P Haynes
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