Catch a Cheating Spouse – The Basics
If you suspect that your partner or spouse is not being faithful or is having an affair their are many methods that can be used to find out the truth. This article will cover some of the basics that anyone can do with know special equipment or training.
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The first thing that you should do is keep a detailed record of reported activities of your partner or spouse. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. Your notes will become invaluable as you compare what is said with phone bills, credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, talking to other people, etc. Cheating spouses will usually try to change their story when confronted with the facts and will probably try to question your memory, so keep a detailed record of everthing.
Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the time and number of all calls.
Go through the trash, his or her wallet, purse, pockets etc. when they are not around. If your partner is going to restaurants, bars, movies or anywhere else with their suspected lover there will be receipts and they will surely want to get rid of them. It is possible that he/she will become sloppy and put them in the garbage at home or hide it in a purse or billfold. If you find anything that you are suspicious of or cannot explain save it as evidence or write down the details and put the receipt back where you found it so that he/she does not get suspicious. Your partner is already being secretive so do not let them know that you are suspicious of them or they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks.
Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or tell your partner that you have to work late, but then come home early, etc..
Keep track of your partner’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals (unaccounted for cash), phone records, etc.
If you can, check your Partner’s call log. Look for an unusual amount of phone calls. Keep in mind that cheating spouses often store their lover’s phone number under someone else’s name (a friend, a co-worker, etc.).
You should never confront your partner until you’re certain that you have enough evidence to make your case. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. When presented with evidence many cheating partners will make up a story that fits that evidence. But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse/partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. By strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the chance that he or she will tell the truth.
If you find evidence of an affair wait before approaching your partner until you have enough proof to get a confession or at least enough to satisfy yourself.
Think for a minute about how your partner might try to dismiss your accusations (we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). You can gather evidence ahead of time if you can predict what thier response to your aligations will be allowing you to counter what they say.
The important things to remember are, be diligent in your investigation, keep thorough records and save anything and everything.
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