Do you want to get your ex back even though you “wronged” them? Perhaps you were too controlling or abusive or you committed infidelity. Your ex drew a line, closed off their heart to you, and left the relationship. You can learn more about how to get your ex back here.
So now you are sorry for what you’ve done and you’ve learned a thing or two about how not to act if you want to keep a mate around. This is good. The next thing to understand is that there is real hope for reconnecting with your ex and getting them back into relationship with you.
The first step to getting your ex back begins with owning up inside yourself to the fact that you wronged them. You, yourself, by your actions, caused your mate enough emotional pain that they gave up on the whole possibility of your relationship. You hurt them by what you did in such a way that they felt the only thing to do emotionally was to hit the eject button on you.
Why is admitting to ourselves that we wronged our mate so important? Because we naturally don’t like to take the blame for what we did. We like to project the blame for our problems onto others or stress or whatever. Sometimes we even blame our ex for making us wrong them! You can get a complete system for resolving relationship conflict here.
Once you’ve acknowledged to yourself what you did, the next step is to admit it to your mate. You say in your own way “I wronged you.” You don’t try to explain or defend or blame anything else. You man or woman up and admit that you did them wrong.
Look, when you get hurt by someone, it is natural to want to know that the person understand what they did wrong. You don’t want to hear a bunch of excuses and rationalizations. When you’ve wronged your mate, they often can’t begin to forgive until they hear that you are at least taking responsibility for your poor behaviors.
Until we know that our mate understands that cheating was wrong, or being too controlling was wrong, we aren’t ever going to be sure they won’t repeat the bad behavior. And so we cant start to forgive. If you want your ex to forgive make sure one of the first things out of your mouth, before you ever say Im sorry, is to say I wronged you!
So instead of beginning with endless I’m sorry’s, do something more powerful first. Own up to yourself that you did them wrong, them admit it to them without excuses. This is a good way to begin to fix the damage you caused and make way for them to consider taking you back. Go here for a free course on How To Have Marital Help.
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