How Can I Get My Ex Back? Here’s the Answer

I regularly receive emails asking me “how can I get my ex back?” If you want to know the answer to this question too, then keep reading – because I’m going to tell you exactly what I tell them.

Specifically, we’re going to discuss why you need to stop “chasing” your ex, why you need to give yourself time to deal with the negative and painful emotions you’re experiencing, and how to handle the initial meeting with your ex after the break up. By the time you’ve finished reading this article, you’ll know the answer to this question in detail.

Firstly, you need to make sure you’re not going to start “chasing” your ex to get them back. Why? Because the more you chase, the more they will run away from you. Put yourself in their shoes: If someone is constantly calling you, texting you, trying to “bump into you”, how would you feel? Be honest: Would you want to be in a relationship with someone like that? Or would it reinforce your decision to break up with them in the first place?

Aim to portray yourself as  relaxed, calm and in control individual. Never be desperate or needy. You don’t want to try too hard to make them want to be with you again. After all, it’s their decision. You shouldn’t focus on persuading them, instead: Be desirable. This is how you will get your ex back.

Next, you need to give yourself time to deal with the negative emotions you’re going through. If you still have feelings of hurt and pain, you need to let go of these feelings before you try to get your ex back. Why? Because otherwise you’re going to start arguments (whether you consciously intended to or not). This is why most relationship experts will advise you to keep away from your ex for around a month, so you have time for things to settle.

But what if not meeting them again isn’t possible? Perhaps you work at the same place, or go to the same college? In this case, don’t “avoid” them if you see them. This means if you see them walking towards you, don’t turn and run away – obviously this wouldn’t look like the behavior of a calm and collected person. Instead, be warm and friendly towards your ex. But don’t go over the top, be sincere.

Now let’s talk about the initial meeting. It really is very important that you feel ready for the first meet. This means you need to get your head straight and not be harboring deep resentful feelings towards them. Because it will show.

Your primary aim should be to have fun, and make sure your ex has fun too. Don’t focus on the problems in your relationship, or what caused the breakup. Don’t try to make them feel jealous of your new lifestyle, it will be transparent and make you look unattractive.

In conclusion, this guide has given you some useful tips for how to answer the question “how do I get my ex back?” Now that you’ve read this article, you should have a good general overview of what to do and say when you’re around your ex, so ultimately you can learn how to get your ex back.

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