You’ve been dumped. May be you in fact deserved it, but may be you did something regretable. Maybe it was because the guy wanted to explore other options (aka date other girls). May be it happened, because you did not invest anything into the relationship and let it die. Whatever the reason you’ve emerged from your initial shock or denial and realized that you want this guy back. You now realized that despite of the facts that he is leaving the toothpaste tube open, he is wearing is sweaters since he was thirteen and his dependency on Mc Donalds food, he is still definitely adorable.
Stop crying. It’s time to get busy and get that man back. Follow these steps straight back to Datesville and happy times snuggling on the couch together. So how to get back your ex boyfriend?
1. Look the part. Remember your first date? Or your first date? It probably didn’t involve sweatpants and yesterday’s makeup. Indulge in some self improvement. Confidence is super sexy. No self respecting man will find you desirable if he catches you with tissues stuck up your nose. Hit the salon, the spa or the gym. Get an updated look and give your ex a reason to take a second look.
2. Get your sales pitch together. Write your own profile as if you were going to post it online for a dating site. Much like a job interview, you will need to sell yourself. By making a listing of your attributes and taking inventory, you will have the chance to show your ex boyfriend what a great catch you are and why you should be together. You won’t need to recite it later but it will give you the confidence (again, super sexy) as well as some talking points that you can use.
3. You should be honest with yourself. Why aren’t you together right now? Did you stray? May be you let yourself get too complacent? Were you a nag? Did he cheat? So may be he flipped out, because he is commitment phobic? You can’t possibly make a case for why you need to try to get back together unless you honestly understand why you are apart. Only then can you establish new ground rules, agree to handle things differently or sincerely apologize with any hope of improving on the things that went wrong.
4. Don’t try gimmicks. Arranging “chance” encounters, having him see you on the town having a fabulous time with others or stalking him after his weekly kickboxing class will not work. If this guy is indeed worht a second chance, then he does not deserve being fooled in seeing him again. Give him a phone call. Tell you ex boyfriend that you spend a lot of time thinking and you know that he would want to hear what you have to say because the thoughts have value for both of you.
5. Say it right. Even if he did something incredibly stupid, acknowledge shared responsibility. Realize that compromise is mandatory. Make a plan to reconcile. Set boundaries. Expect success.
With a little effort and more work, you can get your ex-boyfriend back. Now put down the tissue and get moving!
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