Many Single men fear rejection when interacting with Single women. This is understandable and very common. The problem is that if you do not risk rejection, you will never get closer to finding the one for you. What to do? Here are some ideas: Change your attitude about meeting women. Decide that rejection is information, nothing more. And finally, let go of the outcome.
Change your attitude about meeting women:
If you have decided that you must meet a woman before your 40th birthday or else you will die a bachelor, you are putting yourself at risk for failure. Instead, take a light-hearted approach. Your mission is simply to meet as many women as possible. Your meetings can be exchanging greetings and nothing more. You want to get into the habit of being confident, looking women in the eye, and learning a thing or two about them. That is all.
No more panicking because you have to meet a girl or else. Just work on feeling comfortable interacting with every woman you meet. Take the pressure off yourself and enjoy the moment.
Rejection is only information:
Face it. You do not like everyone you know. Not everyone likes you. This is totally normal. Some women are going to like you; some are not. Sometimes it is not about you; sometimes it is. Learn from rejection. Yes, it does hurt, but I want you to see it as feedback, nothing more. What do you need to do differently based on being rejected? Evaluate your behavior and decide what your next step will be.
Let go of the outcome:
Again, meeting women is not a life or death situation. See it as an experiment. Your job is to meet a woman, have a brief conversation, ask her interesting questions, and then move on. You can do this anywhere: in the line at the DMV, in the produce section of the grocery store, in the mall, you name it.
With this method, you are not looking for a love connection. You are simply having a short, enjoyable conversation with a stranger. Grant it, this conversation could turn into something more, but you are fine with it either way. Let go of the need to make it something more (which can come across as neediness) and see what happens.
You too can date with confidence. Check out my program, “Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men” at http://facilidating.com for more on this topic.
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