No, this is not a typo – I really meant to say ex-scort. This is very similar to, but more defined than, the more traditional escort that we’ve used in the past. I’m just honestly calling it what it really is for those of us who have found ourselves for one reason or another in a state of PMS – Post Marital Seclusion.
We’re not getting out enough and we are absolutely the best at making excuses for it. Two big excuses are that either we’re not ready to date or we don’t have a date. In steps the ex-scort. Before we go any further, let’s examine what an escort is.
Webster’s top two definitions for escort are:
1. Accompanying another or others to give protection or show honor.
2. A man or boy accompanying a woman or girl, as to a party.
Now, most of us are only seeking an ex-scort for the definition of number 2 when what we could really benefit from is described in number 1.
With major events looming over your head you’re happy to be finally coming out of the fog of your previous relationship but you aren’t quite feeling comfortable with the idea of a new relationship. You can’t help wonder- how can I get a hot date for this event without all the relationship strings attached?
And no, not my brother(been there done that). Not my cousin(and I’ve got some handsome ones). And certainly not one of my BMFs(best male friends) who’s really just waiting to unleash his true feelings of love and limerance.
So, here’s a quick layout of how the Ex-scort can easily work for you as a date:
1) The Event – You should begin your search for your ex-scort as soon as you find out about an event. Find out all of the details so that you can explain what is expected of your date. You’ll also need time to have a CC- (Coffee Chat) with him.
Important: This is not meant to be a paid service but rather an opportunity for both of you to enjoy yourselves. Remember you are not desperate and there will be men lining up for this position if offered.
2) The Prospect – I like to think of them as your fav 5 just like your cell phone company. Five guys that you’re not emotionally or romantically tied to – easy enough huh?
3) The Agreement – Yes, an agreement. You must do this to protect the both of you. There should be terms and conditions that you both understand and agree to. Should someone start to ‘catch’ feelings then another in person CC is required.
4) The big day, weekend or week(hey, why not?). It almost always is far more delightful than anticipated.
You look fabulously ‘bounced back’ and full of bliss, should you encounter your ex, you feel wonderful too. If anyone has any mishaps in speech(calling your date by your ex’s name) or telling stories(probably exaggerations)about how great your ex was at something or other. No worries!
All of this will just roll of your ex-scort like water off of a duck’s back as he whisks you away from the group (ie. the protector in definition 1). and onto the dance floor. Oh yeah, make sure that if there’s dancing to be had your ex-scort is game(meaning he’s a dancer). Think of it this way, this is one of the few opportunities when you get to totally call the shots exactly as you like so take full advantage and make sure you get what you want in an ex-scort.
A bonus to all of this is that you also become more attractive to the opposite sex. You certainly don’t look desperate. And at the end of the night, there’s a happy couple – because you both got what you expected and then parted ways. This is great and it works! Click here for more dating tips.
To Your Bliss….
~Coach Cathy~
Cathy Bishop is a Dating Coach to busy professionals in Pennsylvania, Delaware, and New Jersey. Be sure to check out her site and enroll in the Free- “30 Days & Flirty Nites to Bliss” eCourse starting soon!
For more information on the actual orchestration of developing an ex-scort (each person and circumstance being unique) you can contact me for a free Dating Strategy Session. Sign up today, relax, and…… stop thinking so much!
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