Are you feeling lonely and depressed now that your boyfriend is gone? You feel that your whole world came tumbling down because you broke up. There are several ways to get him back. Perhaps he felt that things went too fast and he was not prepared to commit just yet.
Follow A Different Approach
Maybe he felt you were pushing him way too hard and no longer in control of his future. Or it could be that he felt suffocated and just needs some breathing space. This is not a good idea if you want the relationship to work.
Men need to be independent and always want some space. They dont want to find themselves in a long term commitment where they have no control of the circumstances. They mostly likely bail if the situation becomes undesirable for them.
If the turn of events happened so fast for him and he doesnt agree then problems start to rise. When you make assumptions about him wanting to commit to you for life then you are mistaken. If they are pushed in a certain direction they dont want to go then men are most likely to disappear on you.
Understand that you cant make him go to a certain direction unless he wants to. Let him know that you give him total freedom to choose and that you will gladly follow his lead.
Get things moving now since and have a plan in place. He no longer feels trapped and loving his state of independence.
If you remained friends and regularly talk, dont make yourself available all the time whenever he asks for a date. Let him want to pursue you again.
Also let him have something to hunt for. Sometimes the things most desired are the things that are hard to get. Those will also be the things that makes them more likely to go in for the kill which is what you want him to do. You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.
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