Guys, Don’t write off the relationship just because she dumped you – Get Back together with your ex
Are you wondering, even though you were dumped, how to get your ex back? There’s always a chance. All is not lost.
Women are fickle creatures. In 3 out of 4 breakups, it is the woman who calls it off. Its good news, though, that women can change their minds and want to restore the relationship.
So, if you are wondering about how to get ex girlfriend back, then the answer is first of all, don’t give up and don’t assume that you can’t.
They might afterwards come to the conclusion that they made a bad decision and want to get together again.
Some of what you need to do is to figure out what went wrong in the first place and change it. Perhaps she was bored in the relationship. If so, then you’ll need to pay more attention to her.
Find out what she finds interesting and get interested in them yourself. If one of the things she didn’t like was that you were too needy, then you might need to give her a lot of space.
If you really want to get back together, then you will probably have to become the type of guy she wants to date. This doesn’t mean that you have to go crazy and lose who you are. It means that you’ll need to (when the time comes):
- Listen to her without offering advice. She doesn’t want you to fix her problem(s). She wants you to ‘listen’ to her. Tell her you feel what she’s feeling, tell her you’re on her side, make her know that you ‘understand’. Most of the time thats what she really wants.
- Be romantic, even if you aren’t. Buy here some jewelry, get her some perfume, send flowers and tell her romantic things. Women love romance.
- Pay more attention to her. Women love to be made a fuss over. In a good way, of course. Not in some creepy, stalker-ish kind of way.
Anyway, these are things to do once you are back together, but what do you do now to get back together with ex?
Become the kind of guy she wants to date. Get some new clothes. Begin exercising. Pay attention to the news and talk about things that will surprise her. Do things that might be out of character for you so that you can talk about things that may surprise her when you meet.
For instance, if she thinks all you care about is baseball, then tell her that you were thinking of riding horses some weekend and would she like to come along. [A good example of this might be that if she thinks all you care about is baseball, then surprise her by inviting her to ride horses or go to the opera. This will surprise her because she has it in her mind that you wouldn’t do anything outside of the baseball world.
Here are some more ideas about how to ex back.
You also might try to date some in-demand girls. In demand girls date in-demand guys. If you are seeing an in-demand girl, she will come to think of you as an in-demand guy. Her whole ‘picture’ of you will change.
She’ll see you as some kind of valuable thing that she threw away and maybe, just maybe, she was wrong.
You need to keep in mind that you are no longer a ‘couple’. You no longer belong to each other exclusively. Instead, you are two independent spheres rotating around the other.
Many guys don’t realize that this power shift has occurred. During their time alone, when guys are in the dumps, they don’t bother to change their old behavior. This is a big mistake.
When you want to get back together with your ex, then you will need to take advantage of that shift in power. You will woo her by changing the things that she doesn’t like about you or the relationship, become the in-demand guy that all girls want to date, and be a little bit unavailable to her.
If these things don’t work, she probably has moved on and you won’t have much hope of jump starting anything.
However, in almost all cases, because women are fickle creatures, you can usually get back together with ex.
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