So, you have a crush on that gorgeous guy you see everyday at work or on the bus or whenever you go into the coffee shop. What do you do about it? Should you stay quiet or take a chance at finding a love with a perfect match?
Well, at least you think he’s a perfect match for you, but he may not be thinking the same thing about you because he has not asked you out yet and it seems like he hasn’t even noticed you. What about the guys out there? Guys, you’ve been eyeing your dream date, but she always has tons of competition around her and you haven’t been able to catch her eye. What should you do about that?
Having a crush on someone is a very delicate matter because when you have a crush, you really, really like someone and that can be dangerous. When you have a crush, most likely, you are operating through your emotions and not your mental capacity. Your perspective on this person is all being strained through the sieve of your emotions. Due to this fact, it’s possible that your behavior toward this person will be abnormal and you could act in ways that don’t present a good first impression. Sometimes, having a crush even goes further than this and you can become so totally obsessed with this person that you start to, for lack of a better term, stalk him or her. Now, that is definitely not the way to get this person’s attention and win him or her over to your side.
First of all, you should take a step back and analyze the situation and make sure that before you take any further steps, you will move forward, led by your mind and not your emotions. Once you’ve gotten control of your emotions, casually observe this person, and not like a stalker would. Just take notice of how he or she acts when around other people and see if you can figure out from this limited perspective what type of person he or she is. Of course, you won’t get the whole picture until you actually start to get to know this person, but this step is for your own benefit. You need to ascertain whether or not you really think this person could be a perfect match for you or if you were only attracted to his or her physical appearance. Once you’ve gained greater insight, you can move on to the next step.
You must try to figure out if this person is already in a committed romantic relationship to someone else. You are doing yourself a real favor by not getting involved in a fatal attraction triangle. If you are not able to ascertain this specific information, there is nothing you can do about that, but you need to at least try to find out. Now you need to take a deep breathe and try to calm your nerves and tell yourself that you do not really like this person. You need to change your perspective and try to ease out of the crush mode into a normal attitude. You need to repeat to yourself the affirmation that you will be perfectly fine even if this person does not like you. When you’ve successfully achieved this mindset, you should take the next step and try to talk to this person.
Don’t be overly obnoxious in your approach. Be friendly and you can flirt slightly, but remember to keep that balance. Try to have a nice chat with this person and remember to have your mind working overtime trying to assess the situation to see if this person truly is a perfect match for you. If things go well once you’ve had a chance to speak to each other and this person now knows whom you are and you have chemistry, that’s great; you can go out on a date. If things don’t go so well and this person does not reciprocate your feelings, take it in stride and walk away from the situation. Obviously, since you had a crush and this was not just someone that you spotted across the room one time and wanted to ask out, you will have a more difficult time to get over this rejection. However, don’t let it hold you captive. Take time to mourn the loss and then move on to greener pastures. If this person truly was a perfect match for you, he or she would have seen it right away and then you’d be together already. Don’t lose heart; your perfect match is out there waiting to be found by you!
Allan Tan is an experienced writer on seeking dating and relationships. He has been writing for many years and has had many articles published. Some of Allan’s most favorite topics to write on include single professionals, mature daters, relationships, and matchmaking. Perfect Match
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